Thursday, July 16, 2009

Revealing the Reality

Seems I’m deceptive---or at the very least, not entirely forthcoming.

Yesterday, a lovely commenter mentioned how very happy our two always seem to be. Feedback such as that warms my heart. Occasionally, it tweaks my conscience. Our twins are happy children. Our twins are extraordinarily bright children. Our twins are caring children. Our twins love each other very much.

As it is with twins—and life in general—there’s a yin to the yang. Our twins argue. Our twins tattle. Our twins cry. Our twins have even been known to inflict physical harm upon each other.
[clarification: the cast above was not a byproduct of excessive sibling rivalry. The tears, maybe.]

As a result, I react. I lose my temper. I compare. I yell. Regularly. Loudly.

In the interest of transparency, consider me confessed.

Entirely eliminating life’s negatives may be a parenting impossibility; but when it comes to blogging life with our two, I choose to accentuate the positive.

[Chokehold or hug? Your thoughts?]
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Just Breathe said...

Cute pictures and thank you for sharing the truth. We all know that happy isn't all the time!

monica said...

Oh I totally agree. I try to accent the positive on my blog also but in real life they do a some fighting. Great post I am glad that I am not the only one dealing with it and I am too look forward to many more years of fighting or disagreeing! Great picture of the two of them hugging (again I am going with the positive).

Zip n Tizzy said...

I think of my blog as a reminder of what's right in our world. It's easy to get overwhelmed by parenting, so remembering what makes us smile is essential.

cat said...

I guess there is a yang side to all twins. I am starting to see the real effects of sibling rivalry - physical fighting effects.

Missy (Two Little Monkeys) said...

I am going to say that Sweet little Darren is hugging his sister.
Amen Cheryl! Twins are so close - so close that when they fight it can get ugly. And what is a Momma to do? Sometimes yelling is the result (at least in my home!) Us, Moms of Multiples, are outnumbered, you know.

Christy M. said...

The yin and the yang, the delicate and necessary balance, is what makes you an awesome mama!

Mother of Multiples said...

Wow isnt that the truth. I just got done with a pathetic post yesterday of how wonderful life is..that was then...I need to steal your idea and share that I am real. I get angry..I lose my temper..I give my husband the silent treatment. In fact I think I will post my top ten..send me over the edge ..thanks for your inspiration

Barbara Manatee said...

why not share the positive instead of dwell on the tough times? Obviously we can chose to hum and haw over every little thing or keep our chins up and not sweat the small stuff! I've always tried to be a positive person but since having my kids and realizing how precious life really is...I certainly try to make the most of every moment instead of getting frustrated over the other things!

Keep up the positives! LOVE to see them and they always make my day to know that my two, who also share a good relationship as toddlers, may continue to be best friends when they are Darren and Sarah's age! :-)

Nancy said...

YEAH!! It's not just me ;)

Even though it's REALLY good to know that life's not always rainbows and sunshine at your house, it's definitely more interesting to see more good than bad when reading posts. Don't get me wrong...a good rant and rave it awesome as well ;)

mommytoalot said...

Cheryl I needed to read something like that. I'm having a very very sad day..and it's nice to know i'm not the only one who can yell.
ps your kids are beautiful.

CHR said...

I tend to only yell at other people's kids.

Dianna@KennedyAdventures said...

Thanks for giving us the 'truth'! Heck ... I yell, cry, and drink more since the boys have arrived. Having said that ... I wouldn't trade them for the world!

Laura said...

Funny you say that because I think we all have a self-consciousness about our Blogger Persona.
Often my blog reflection is the way I would like to be (and strive to be).
The reality is that I am moody and lazy sometimes.
And I am NOT a perfect teacher, but I want to be close to perfect.
I give you MAJOR kudos for this post.