Monday, March 22, 2010

Retiring My Role as Referee

From their earliest days, my pacifistic nature has led me to intervene in the most twintense conflicts. Naturally, Sarah and Darren need to learn to resolve their disagreements on their own, but prolonged anger between the two is a challenge for me to simply "stand by."

This weekend, after a particularly volatile bout, Double Daddy and I postponed a much-desired viewing of The Princess and the Frog.

Later in the day, this wadded-up paper was discovered under the dining room table.

It reads:
"Dear Darren, 1st of all, I don't think this is a sorry note, it's not. 2 of all you have spoiled things to [sic]. 3rd of all this movie loss was not just me face it, we both were argueing [sic]. 4th of all you will keep your friends. I will keep my friends. Face it we both did something wrong so I don't feel a bit sorry for you."


Granted, that last line isn't exactly an olive branch extended; nor is the condition in which the document was found indicate an apology-accepting recipient, but by the time Scott and I came downstairs, the two were happily at play.

My polyester black and white striped polo may be gone for good.
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8 comments:

cat said...

I really found the Princess and the Frog disturbing - I think Disney lost the plot whit all that Voodoo stuff.

SouthernDogwoods said...

I believe you can hang up your referee shirt. I love the letter - it definitely made me smile. Isn't it amazing how kids can fight one minute and be best friends the next.
Our Sunday, we all snuggled up and watched the Princess and the Frog. We all loved it! Great movie

Terra said...

Wowzers! That is a very straight forward note and it did the trick. Very good! WIth my girls 5 years apart we are few and far between on the sorries and I am still playing ref most days!

Kelli @ writing the waves said...

Can you send the shirt to me? :) Love the note. "Face it..." - haha! So grown up!

I had really hoped I would have time to meet up with you when we were in VA last week. We didn't get there til Weds. night and left on Sat. so it was a whirlwind of a visit. Hopefully, there will be some event with FT soon and we'll ALL get to meet in person. :)

Anonymous said...

I try not to referee. My favorite words are "work it out and let me know what you decide." It drives them crazy because they want me to choose sides.

beth - total mom haircut said...

Your children amaze me. They really do.

Unknown said...

That's a note written by your child? Wow. Impressive!

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ChefDruck said...

First of all, she has incredible handwriting. Seriously. I'm going to show this note to Bella to inspire her.

Secondly, she writes very expressively. I can just imagine her hand gestures as she wrote this note. "Face it" "I don't feel a bit sorry for you." This is great stuff! And good for you for having the self-control to pull yourself out. Twin relationships are tricky... definitely a love fraught with competition.